Love Wins!

On June 26th, 2015, the Supreme Court has¬†ruled in favor of marriage equality nationwide, because in the end, #LoveWins When I was little, I didn’t dream about getting married. I didn’t really care one way or the other, personally. When I was younger, all I cared about was whether or not I was in possession […]

The Rejection of Jack McFarland: Perception and Identity of Gay Men in Media

I’ve recently learned of a new term used to describe men who are so far out of the closet that they’ve basically become a poster child for the¬†clich√©d, Hollywood-crafted stereotype of what a gay man is: “Billboard gay.” The way it was presented to me was in an effort¬†to downplay the process of coming out […]

“No Offense, But”: Reactions to the Possibility of The Walking Dead’s Daryl Dixon (Maybe) Being Gay

Whenever somebody begins with the phrase, “No offense, but…,” rest assured that it’s probably going to be somewhat offensive, especially where gay issues are concerned. No matter how progressive our culture seems to be on the surface, beneath that glossy, shiny exterior plastered with photos from Pride Parades, individual state marriage equality victories, and cover […]

The Beauty Sickness Epidemic: the Gay Male Body Archetype Discussion, Part II

When HyperReality‘s “Sam Smith and the Gay Male Body Archetype” went viral at the beginning of July, attracting nearly 150,000 views in just six days, I quickly realized that the reaction was split in two.¬†On¬†one side of the spectrum, there was an outpouring of support for Sam Smith and an understanding that media has effected […]

Instant Gratification, Insta-lebrities, Instigation: Why Nash Grier Shouldn’t Have a Platform

Not everybody deserves — or should have — a platform. Eight years ago, ¬†internet-based celebrities were non-existent; the thought of achieving fame solely through the internet¬†was a concept that I don’t think anyone¬†anticipated, let alone expected to ever come to fruition. At the start of the 2000s, social networking was a relatively “new” concept, with […]

‘Me. I Am Mariah … the Elusive Chanteuse’: A Benchmark Mariah Carey Record

Originally Published on May 27th, 2014; Updated on June 24th, 2014 “I’ll just sit right here and sing that good old school shit to ya/I won’t fool ya” Mariah coos on the first verse of “Dedicated,” a breezy throwback jam to 1980’s hip hop featuring hip hop heavyweight — and probably one of the last […]

10 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was in the Closet

Originally Published: April 3rd, 2014; Updated: June 24th, 2014 Recently, I’ve had a few readers reach out to me in response to this piece I wrote about Disney’s Frozen, sharing candid personal details about their life and struggles they’ve faced in regards to growing up gay and taking those pivotal first steps towards coming out […]

Beware the Frozen Heart: Is Disney’s ‘Frozen’ An Allegory for Coming Out?

Originally Published: December 2nd, 2013; Updated: June 24th, 2014 Is Disney’s Frozen An Allegory for Coming Out? **WARNING: Mild Spoilers Ahead** Walt Disney Animation Studios, the brilliant tour de force¬†behind¬†animations greatest cinematic achievements like the use of a multiplane camera to¬†help create the illusion of depth in animation, among others —¬†ahem, Snow White and the […]

Sex in YA: Everybody Does “It,” Nobody Talks About It

Originally Published: December 9th, 2013; Updated: June 24th, 2014 In¬†Young Adult Literature, How¬†Should¬†Sex Exist? Sex is a basic human need.¬†When we’re young, we’re curious about it; as we mature, we want it and once we have it, we crave it. If we aren’t having it, we’re daydreaming about it, reflecting on past experiences, looking ahead […]

Will & Grace 101: How to React in Almost Any Situation

Originally Published September 16th, 2013; Updated: June 24th, 2014 As a self-respecting gay man, and pop culture commentat√≥r, naturally I have learned a lot from the oft-stereotypical, yet wildly forward-thinking-for-Network-TV-at-the-time Will & Grace. And by learned a lot, I clearly mean it’s my bible. For a very long time, it was my only real window […]

Ruby Slippers, Western Stampin’ Ken, and A Whole Lotta #Diva

Originally Published: August 28th, 2013; Updated: June 24th, 2014 I had a MAJOR gaypiphany¬†the other day, like I often do when I’m reminiscing about my childhood. Gayphiphany: How did everyone NOT know I was gay by the time I reached 7? And if they did, WHY DIDN’T ANYONE TELL ME? Disclaimer: this is SO stereotypical. […]

“Maybe”

Originally Published: August 26th, 2013; Updated: June 24th, 2014 ‚ÄúMaybe‚ÄĚ I probably shouldn‚Äôt have told Nina not to wear her skintight plaid pants with zippers all over the legs. It wasn‚Äôt my finest hour. But I guess that‚Äôs the beauty of hindsight; it‚Äôs only good after the fact. Now I‚Äôm left alone, with only my […]

The Book I Wish I Had Written: Openly Straight

Originally Published: June 14th, 2013; Updated: June 24th, 2014 What’s the difference between “tolerance,” “acceptance,” and “celebration”? I never thought much about it before. Or at least, I never sat down and had a conversation about the inherent difference in that collection of words; not in a concrete way, anyway. For the length of this […]

“Spring Break, A Not-Yet-Gay Fairytale”

Originally Published: May 24th, 2013; Updated: June 23rd, 2014 Spring Break, A Not-Yet-Gay Fairytale Steven A Na Hiku Wahine¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†(and the Seven Girls¬†in Hawaiian) . ‚ÄúAloha!‚ÄĚ the half-naked men in bright yellow sarongs with bold green palm trees […]

Ex-Gay Camp: ‘The Summer I Wasn’t Me’ Will Change the Face of Summer Reading

As a writer, it’s hard to tackle certain subjects with a level of objectivity that doesn’t scream “THIS IS REALLY MY OPINION ON THIS HIGHLY CONTROVERSIAL SUBJECT BUT IT’S DELIGHTFULLY MASKED IN MY OBJECTIVE TONE, SEE?” That’s why I hesitate whenever I pick up a book with controversial subject matter, and when my good friend […]

27 Things I Wish I Could Tell 17 Year Old Steven

September 14th¬†was my 27th birthday. I don’t remember when I officially hit my “Late 20s,” but I’m surprisingly OK with that. I’m kind of taking a “whatever” attitude towards my birthday this year. In the past, I would either have an existential crisis (The Epic Quarter Life Crisis of 25) … or plan some elaborate […]