The Most Important Part of Writing

The most important part of writing is ….

  • the dedication spent actually writing and working on your craft?
  • having a strong voice?
  • knowing how to edit? Proper grammar saves lives
  • realizing that writing is a process of discovery?
  • being totally arrogant and pompous?
  • knowing the conventions?
  • breaking the conventions?
  • finding fresh, new ways to tell a story?
  • loving to write?
  • actually being a good writer?

I could go on and on, but I’ll stop because the most important part of the whole goddamn writing process is none of the above. Sure, you need to actually know how to write, and you need to know your strengths so you can work on your weaknesses, etcetera, etcetera, but the best thing any writer can do for themselves is to find a great support group.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be a collective group of people. Just one person could make the difference between staying on the right path of positivity during the long, tumultuous writing journey and straying completely off course, landing you in the town of Depressville on the corner of Suicide Lane and I’mNeverWritingAgain road.


Yesterday, I was in a bad, bad place. Seriously. I haven’t felt that level of hate, rage, and sadness in a very long time. And to be honest, I don’t know why. I knew from the get-go that I didn’t want that particular to be my agent. Had he presented me with an offer, I would have turned him down. What struck a nerve with me was the way he went about the entire request-and-reject process. It affected me in a way I never thought it could.

But I am human.

So I turned to friends. And friends reached out to offer support. My amazingly supportive boyfriend, Steve, is quite possibly my biggest fan and I wouldn’t be able to keep with this whole process if it weren’t for him. Author Jess Verdi, always a beacon of support and wisdomous wisdom, helped calm me down. Nic, of KeyChanges, has  become a go-to for inspirational motivation. My best friends, my family, and my new writing group also do a lot to help calm my spirit and give me the necessary mojo to keep on keepin’ on.

The most important part of being a writer is having people around you that support you, that you can turn to, that understand your plights and fights and struggles and dark days and, in small ways, encourage you to keep writing because they know you’re going to make it, even if you don’t.

There are days when I’m convinced that an agent is going to sign me.

Those are often followed by days where I’m 100% certain that I won’t ever get off the ground.

I have moments where I never want to write again.

But then somebody pulls me aside or messages me privately to tell me that I am a great writer and that my blog has inspired them or motivated them, or that my manuscript is great and not to listen because I just haven’t found THE ONE yet.

It’s been said that writing is a solitary process, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Like underdeveloped seedlings need water and sunlight and healthy soil, writer’s need love. And the occasional hand to hold, shoulder to cry on, and blog to vent through.

Thank you to everyone who continues to support me. I appreciate every single word.


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